You Must Take Responsibility
“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – Dalai Lama
We all gathered at the breakfast table to enjoy a sumptuous meal. My friend, dressed in his immaculate white shirt and red tie was all set to dash off to work. As he bent to kiss his daughter goodbye, she mistakenly spilt her tea on his white shirt. In a swift reaction, he chided the little girl who in turn burst into tears and ran off to her room.
He, in turn, went upstairs to his room to change into a clean shirt. By the time he rushed down, he was obviously running late for work. Then he barked at his driver for not having taken his briefcase into the car. My friend was in a bad mood. As I sat munching my breakfast, I watched as my friend had inadvertently blamed his daughter for spilling her tea on his shirt, yet he was the one who not only went to her but was not careful enough to kiss his 4-year old daughter at the right time.
You see, many people do not link their choices, actions, decisions to the consequences that must necessarily follow. You should know that every one of your decisions in life is a cause for every effect that must follow, and since you’re responsible for your life, you should ultimately be responsible for the consequences.
Another reason people shy away from taking responsibility for their actions is that it is painful to realize that you, and no one else, are the cause of your problem.
My friend, as you step out today, put on the victor-mentality by accepting personal responsibility for your circumstances – in so doing, you will significantly increase your power to change those circumstances.