Can One Forgive and Forget?
“The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it’s not because they forget; it’s because they forgive.” – Demi Moore
In a counselling session last week a participant narrated: “I forgive him for not loving me enough, even though I gave him my heart; I forgive him for crushing my hopes and dreams, even though I raised him up so high… But how can I possibly forget…?”
Truth is that to earn your inner peace and be free of hurt, you’ve got to forgive, and you’ve got to forget.
If you still hurt, then you’ve not forgotten; if you’ve not forgotten you’ve not forgiven, and not forgiving is like drinking poison, and expecting the other person to die.
Forgiving means the offender is more valuable to you than the wrong they have done. And when you dwell more on that value, it’s easy to overlook the hurt.
So, can one forgive and forget? Yes; to forgive is not to forget but to let go of the hurt. It does not change the past, but it certainly does change the future – for the better.
Therefore Go, And Forgive!
image: Mark Marson
Did you know? – Forgiveness makes you happier.
Are you haunted by your past failures? Relax. It is human to sometimes have doubts.